Today, on my traffic-ridden drive home from work, grumpy and tired and feeling sorry for myself. I think, I must have the hardest job in the world.
I see a woman standing on the street corner holding a sign with scrawling writing, "Anything Helps". Sitting on the curb next to her is a very young child.
I pull over two blocks later and walk back towards them, Not knowing what to say. I don't have any cash, or a credit card on me. I don't even have a granola bar to offer.Feeling awkward, I introduce myself and asked their names.
What a lovely name.
"No way! I just moved from Zion's national Park area." I smile, and direct my question to the little girl, " Do you know where that is?"
"Oh ya." Zion says dismissively, "Of course I know"
Tasha chuckles. A melodic laugh that makes me want to sing along. Her voice is grounded and rich, colorful and smooth, she could been on the radio. Or a queen.
I want to ask her a hundred questions. Where are you from? How did you land here, at this traffic corner with a cardboard sign? What do you need? What can I do to help you?
But I don't know how to say any of that. I ask Zion, "Would you like a cookie?"
Zion barely looked up from the addition worksheet she was filling out with the help of a calculator and said, "Sure."
Tasha asks in a loving reminder, "What do you say?"
Zion waves a bright, toothy grin at me, "Thank you."
I go back the two blocks to my car to get a credit card. Then buy a gift card to Rubio's fish grill, and a cookie, since that's what I'd offered.
I calligraph their names on the gift card sleeve with a BIC pen. Hoping I spelled them right. Maybe they'll think it's nice to see their names written beautifully?
I pause after writing their names, and on the other side add my phone number.
When I hand it to Tasha, she flashes a stunning smile, and in a low, smooth, rich voice she thanks me, and like a gracious host, relieves my awkwardness by adding, "Rubio's is Zion's favorite place."
"Where does Zion go to school?" I ask, not wanting to leave them yet.
"She's homeschooled."
"I'm a teacher." I offer, kind of muttering, "It's impressive that you're doing that. Teaching her yourself. It's hard."
I then mumble, ineloquently, "I...uh...left you my phone number. I'm not really sure why..."
I am afraid she'll feel condescended to. Some snobby, white lady who feels guilt over her own privilege, here to swoop in and save us.
It isn't like that at all. I want to be her best friend. To hear all about the bucket of hardships she has. I want to cry into her shoulders, and have this grounded, soul tell me that we are stronger than we seem. I want to tell her how much I admire her--this beacon of grace, and poise and strength--to stand, even so elegantly, on a traffic corner for her daughter. I want them both to be ok.
But I can't say any of that.
"I'd...uh... I'd love it if you ever wanted to call. Maybe I could help. With school or whatever. I don't know...Whatever."
She, gracious again, controls the moment like royalty, relieving my awkwardness, and treats the gesture like a cherished gift.
"Thank you so much, Averill. I'll call."
I don't know if she will. I probably wouldn't if I were her.